Chasing Peace

When you fight with others, one of the hardest things to do is to sit down and talk it over. It is easy to allow feelings to bottle up and implode. Confrontation is absolutely needed if relationships are to be repaired. It is easy to, say, invite someone to reconcile and forget about the problem. However, having an honest face-to-face discussion is another matter. Say someone stole from you, ignored your gift of kindness, or ghosted you. Be candid and honest because you want to do the right thing. Broken relationships cannot be repaired unless we are ready to do what is difficult. Acknowledge what went wrong and forgive each other. Forgiving each other is the right thing to do. We can forgive, but the forgiveness is not complete unless those who have offended us are willing to ask for forgiveness. Without acknowledgment of the wrongdoing, relationships can’t be repaired. You may be thinking, Well,this sounds good, but what if I’m dealing with a difficult person who continues to create chaos and drama in my life? Throughout this book, we will discuss different techniques for dealing with toxic or difficult people.

Various factors can make a person difficult to deal with.

It's important to remember that people's behaviors and characteristics can vary, and what makes someone difficult for one person might not be the same for another. Building understanding, patience, and open communication can often help when dealing with challenging individuals.

What causes fights among people? Don’t they come from emotions that battle within them?

What if every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us? Whenever we experience disturbance or distress, regardless of the cause, there might be something within us that needs attention or to be looked at. Sometimes our reactions to or responses to external events or situations can evenly underlying issues within ourselves.

By taking this perspective, we shift the focus inward and encourage self-reflection. Instead of solely blaming external factors for our disturbances, we consider the possibility that our internal state or unresolved issues might contribute to our reactions. This viewpoint promotes personal responsibility and awareness. It encourages us to look at our thoughts, beliefs, and experiences that could be influencing our responses to various triggers. By

looking inward we can gain insights into ourselves, identify areas for growth, and work towards finding inner peace and balance. It’s important to note that while self-reflection is valuable, it doesn’t mean that the external factors are always irrelevant or that very disturbance is solely our fault. Sometimes external events or circumstances cause distress, and its necessary to address those issues directly. It important to understand looking inside ourselves can help us manage our reactions to life’s disturbances. Sometimes the only thing we can control is ourselves and changing how we react is what comes first.

The difficult person in your life may not change but you will change how you react to them or how you act around them.