Becoming a Wholly Woman

In spite of their relationship with the Lord, there is an epidemic of both men and women from all around the globe walking around with wounded hearts and souls from past hurts. The trauma has left them feeling helpless, stuck, and emotionally out of control. They’re perpetually plagued with undeniable residuals that certain memories have left buried deep below the surface of the skin. They are invisible to the eye but painfully real to the soul. I have written this book with you in mind.
Whether your pain is from shame, guilt, rejection, abandonment, disappointment, divorce, the loss of a loved one, brokenness, abuse, betrayal, or insecurity, you may feel overwhelmed by the intensity of it and simply do not know how to deal with it. It’s only common to become practiced at denial to survive. Unconsciously, you may have learned how to keep the pain at bay because it’s too hard to remember or think about. You may endeavor to hide or disguise the pain by living in a superficial world of your own. Or you may put up a façade that everything is perfectly okay. Maybe you’re afraid of others finding out who you really are, so you wear a mask of deception to cover up the authentic person. But happens when you are forced to strip away the cover-ups? What happens when you can no longer rely on your projected image? The moment your superficial life unveils itself, you’ll eventually have to come face- to- face with your own reality.
Often we don’t even realize how much our lives revolve around the pain of the past. And ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. There’s no way around it except accepting the truth for what it is. Throughout this book you will often read, “You cannot change what you’re not willing to acknowledge.” To move forward and live the purposeful life that God intended, you must acknowledge that your pain is real. You must identify the root cause of your pain, confront it, and then deal with it. Forgiving the person or people who inflicted the pain upon you is very important. And if there’s any guilt on your part, you must also forgive yourself. These are vital steps toward healing and wholeness.
What would you do if you fell and broke your arm; leaving you with excruciating pain day in and day out? Would you cast your arm, or ignore the pain? Or what if you were diagnosed with diabetes, or some other type of physical ailment? Would you refuse medical treatment and watch your body slowly deteriorate? Just as your body needs healing when it’s sick, so does your soul.
In the book of Mark, a remarkable story is told about a broken and hurting woman who was looking for healing. She had suffered a blood flow for twelve years. But when she heard about Jesus, she desperately sought after Him as she propelled her way through the crowd of people. Undoubtedly, this condition had taken a toll on her entire being; spirit, soul and body. But when she reached out and touched His clothes, she was immediately healed of her affliction. The moment she was healed, the woman was “made whole again.” “And he said to her, Daughter, your faith has made you whole; go in peace and be whole of your plague” (Mark 5:34 AKJV).
Healing is the process of becoming “whole again.” – Merriam-Webster defines WHOLE as “not divided or scattered among several areas of interest or concern,” “enjoying health and vigor,” and “not lacking any part or member that properly belongs to it.”
Wholeness is the “state of forming a complete and harmonious whole, unity” and the “state of being unbroken or undamaged” as in the spirit, soul, and body.