W.A.R. (Women in Abusive Relationships)

Introduction

Women in Abusive Relationships (WAR). This is the perfect name because women in abusive relationships are essentially in a war with the enemy every day. Just like any war, there are good days and bad days, but it is a constant fight for survival. This is a battle women go through every morning when they wake up until the time they lay their heads down to sleep at night. Each WAR is different, whether it is neglectful (the spouse is not home much and leaves the woman open and vulnerable), physical (the spouse puts his hands on the woman, throws objects at or in the direction of the woman), emotional (the spouse constantly puts down the woman, spouse is very controlling), or a combination. All of them end up being spiritual battles. It is a spiritual journey down a long, broken, and beaten road.
It is one thing to be unequally yoked in a marriage to a decent man, but it is an entirely different story if the man is an abuser. There may be some men who try to use religion against you or throw it in your face. “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to their husbands in everything” (Ephesians 5:22–24 NIV). Some men take this scripture out of context. This does not mean that the husband is the authoritarian in the relationship, and you must obey his orders. The Lord made Eve for Adam as a companion for the man so he would not be alone in his daily life; she was not made to be his slave. For women of God, this really puts us in an awkward position because we are being pulled in two different directions.