#I Am All In

Marriage and dating is an investment, which also involves some risk. A couple with the mindset that I am all-in can survive. I believe that your attitude determines your altitude.

Despite this fact, many researchers have concluded that 39% of marriages in the United States terminate in divorce.

The divorce rates are trending downward. Hopefully, more people are taking their vows seriously.

Today, more people are concerned about uniting with someone that they are equally yoked with. Settling for the wrong person may lead to a divorce. Some people have set specific standards, and they are not retracting them, despite what others may think.

Although some people want to be married, they don’t want to get married just because they may be lonely. I have spoken with a few ladies who are just not engaging in giving up the cookies, so to speak, before marriage, which is biblical, correct.

I have often heard men say many times that they respect ladies who have respect for themselves. These are the ones that men have to pursue.

These ladies do not give in quickly, and they don’t chase after men. They have set high standards for dating, and because they follow Christian principles, the timeline for meeting the type of man they have in mind may be lengthy.

Understand that men are chasers by nature. Most of them are up for the challenge. Most men like the idea that some women are different and stand out from the crowd. Many men find this idea very intriguing, regardless of how some may disagree.

There is nothing wrong with a person who has reached a certain age and is still not married. They may have a person of a certain caliber in mind, and they refuse to settle. People who realize their worth and assets know that they have a lot to offer the right individual, so if the waiting period for marriage is lengthy, that’s not a problem. Enjoying single life until meeting the right person is an incredible experience.

I believe that there are still people today that realize that marriage is sacred and honorable in the sight of God. Instead of rushing, some people take time and choose their mate carefully and prayerfully to avoid possibly ending up in divorce court. Many are aware that there are many important things to be considered before saying I do or I will. Christians should always pray and seek God before getting married.

There are many factors to be considered that may put people at a higher risk for divorce. Some of them are cultural differences, marrying at an early age, lack of education, and finances. Other factors that may affect divorce rates are living together before marriage, trust issues, premarital pregnancy, and a lack of a relationship with God.

Couples must communicate and discuss all of these factors before engaging in marriage. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Professional and spiritual counseling should always be a prerequisite to all marriages regardless if it is the first or there have been multiple ones. Marriage is not a one size fit situation.

Both parties must understand that pre-marital counseling is critical and may enhance the relationship and the marriage.

Spending quality time with each other helps a couple to get to know each other better. Following this protocol may also help prevent some unnecessary future issues.

Before engaging in a committed relationship, it may be better for a couple to start a friendship and build a relationship. Following this method may allow the couple an opportunity to prevent some future problems.