“You’re Not My Real Dad!”

Encouraging Parents and Stepparents to Never Give Up

by Rich Reeder



Book Details

Language : English
Publication Date : 10/17/2019

Format : Softcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 198
ISBN : 9781973673163
Format : Hardcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 198
ISBN : 9781973673187
Format : E-Book
Dimensions : N/A
Page Count : 198
ISBN : 9781973673170

About the Book

After years and years of fighting, arguing, drug over doses and suicide threats we had no idea of how we could make it through the next day. We were being held hostage by my 19 year old step daughter who would threaten to kill herself if she didn’t get what she wanted.

We couldn’t just give into her nor could we not take her threats seriously. In the midst of yet another argument, she played the “I’ll kill myself” card again.

Being beyond the point of extreme frustration and hopelessness, I got up and walked calmly to our closet returning with my gun. I placed the gun in her lap, looked into her eyes and said, “Go ahead, just do it”. I promised her we would give her a nice funeral and take good care of her remains. I then said “just do it or shut up about it”.

She paused for a few moments and looked at the gun.

We were a normal middle class family living in the suburbs trying to have a regular life like anyone else. With years and years of fighting and battling, a normal life is one we didn’t know would ever be possible.

I was first a married guy without kids then a step dad and eventually a father. I have seen the effects of divorce from many angles and the toll it takes on entire families and the kids. I saw it in my own home in ways I would never have believed. Mix in some mental issues and it was a raging battle.

Having experienced all that, I want to encourage families to think hard about what a family breakup can do to the family at large. My hope is that sharing my experiences might help families stick it out and reap the blessing of not having given up.

About the Author

Rich came from a variety of successful secular careers and a personal life focused on bodybuilding and spending a lifetime in the gym. In the midst of the trials and struggles in this book Rich's life completely flipped and he became an ordained minister with a Bachelor degree in Biblical Studies. He has served as a deacon, elder and pastor in local churches. He was inspired to develop and write for a website titled GroundsforLove.org which at it's peak was receiving 17,000 views per month.