Being a father of four children and going through a messy divorce, I have learned some important things along the way on how to survive the process. Being separated from any communication from your kids with little to no visitation or communication for nearly a decade can be a nearly impossible thing as it takes your hope and joy. As a result, I had to cling to God’s promises of reconciliation and a deeper relationship with God as his father. Due to the dark journey I would like to share with others how to survive and find joy again.
To understand where the passion and desire to write this book came from, I must take you back on my journey which started in November of 2009. Suffering a great loss in the construction field, the south was decimated pushing me into bankruptcy. If that wasn’t bleak enough, the only asset I thought we could keep, our house, was damaged by a tropical storm.
Due to the losses, we went from our beautiful home with our four children to a tight apartment. The trauma that hit created a toll on my family and marriage. During this time, I was also suffering from some health issues limiting the amount of work I could do and sending my wife back out into the work world again after being a stay-at-home mother for nearly 12 years.
In November of 2009 my marriage was haunted by what would be a very ugly divorce. As a result, I have had my highs and lows, mountain top experiences as well as dark lonely valleys. One truth I learned is that although others may leave you, God can see you through in the most difficult times.
Most ask if the journey can be real and how one can survive if it were. The reality is unless you have lived it, you may never understand the deep loss and pain. As a result, I have clung to my faith and learned new truths to navigate the dark valley referred to in Psalm 23 and would like to take you on a journey for your healing. Through the process I found I am not defined by my situation rather by God’s grace.