Loneliness

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

—Genesis 2:18 (NASB)

Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.

—Genesis 2:18 (AMPC)

Many times we think of loneliness as the creeps. We think it is a disease or an unwelcomed stranger that comes to visit us from time to time. Look at the definition below:

Loneliness is an unpleasant feeling in which a person experiences a strong sense of emptiness and solitude resulting from inadequate levels of social relationships. However, it is a subjective experience. Loneliness has also been described as social pain—a psychological mechanism meant to alert an individual of isolation and motivate her or him to seek social connections.

Just take a moment and google the word loneliness. The results will almost depress you in reading them. You will see such statements as “Loneliness is a disease,” “Loneliness will make you sick,” “Loneliness is deep sadness,” “Loneliness is toxic to your immune system,” etc. With these thoughts and definitions, who in their right mind will want to be alone? How can this possibly be a gift from God?

My friend, I believe that you will see this timely gift to the single in the next few chapters that you will read in this book. I know that just this book’s title may not convey an appealing topic. But when your soul is searching and wants to get beyond where it has been in relationship building, you will welcome a work of God that will produce a blessing that few ever get to enjoy, a lasting love and healthy relationship. I know this firsthand because it happened to me and is still daily leading me in this journey of singleness.

From fresh and present times with the Spirit comes this work in a gift to each reader who is longing for an end to their journey of singleness—but not just any kind of end but an end to singleness with a new beginning for a special gift that only their time alone with the Spirit could produce. I want you to know that our heavenly Father knows that it isn’t good to be alone, and He has worked for each of us to receive His very best. That is why I have started this book with the opening scripture. Please read it again, and pray and ask the Spirit to speak and open it up to you as you read this book.

We all have tried to silence the voice of loneliness inside our souls. We try to stay busy, with work, family, friends, and other activities. However, when it is all said and done, our day will close with the same thoughts and feelings of loneliness. We feel this way, because this is God’s way of motivating us to reach out not just for a social connection but for that part of us that has been disconnected, our soul mate. What if you could use this time and feeling as a fuel to work harder on yourself to become a better and more loving person for your next relationship? Then, my friend, I believe in the end you will agree with me that this is a real gift, and you will be glad you used it and allowed it to be a season of growth in your life.

Loneliness is a mechanism that drives us to look inside and see that we are not placed here on this big blue planet to be alone. God mentioned it in the above scripture to humanity, his chief creation and creature. We don’t know how long Adam was alone, but we do know that after his work and day was finished, he, Adam, felt that he wasn’t quite complete. God in His infinite wisdom had already planned for that grand introduction, but it took the loneliness to speak to Adam to slow him down enough for God to reach inside of him and pull out what was speaking.