Created for Understanding
The Longing to be Understood and Understanding God and Others
About the Book
One of the more frustrating experiences we can have is the feeling of being misunderstood. All relationships require levels of understanding for them to be fulfilling and satisfying. All relationships require communication. We all communicate. However, we are not all understood – at least not as often as we would like. Fast moving life-styles, constant exposure to media, changes occurring at break-neck speeds all seem to leave the ability to watch, look, and listen to each other more challenging than ever before. We are overly distracted, self-oriented, cynical, and desensitized. We have learned to tune each other out. Having a great deal of knowledge does not always translate into the ability to truly understand. If we would spend the time and slow down the process, we would have a better chance of developing understanding and wisdom.
We are ensnared in our ability to understand by a web of the modern fast moving lifestyle. As a result, our unconscious response to relationship building is, “Who has time for that?” As a seasoned minister and counselor, who is rooted in a deep spiritual foundation, Dr. Shaw offers this book as a beacon of hope for behavioral change. I invite you to delve deeper into this timely, provocative treatise to find out why we all aim to be, and need to be, understood.
—Bishop Adrian Starks, World Victory International Christian Center, Greensboro, NC
Dr. Shaw has authored a significant contribution to the field of interpersonal relationships. Masterfully weaving profound Biblical truths together with deep psychological insights, he creates a beautiful mosaic of relational learning, healing and growth. This outstanding book leads the reader into a powerful process of personal discipleship and practical development in their relationship with God, themselves and others.
—Jared Pingleton, Psy.D., Vice President of Professional Development, American Association of Christian Counselors, Forest, Virginia
About the Author
Christian counselor Dr. Robert B. Shaw Jr. is a licensed professional counselor, dually licensed in Virginia and North Carolina, and a National Board Certified Counselor. He is also an ordained minister and Bible teacher, who has served as a youth pastor, Christian education director, adult education director, musician, and executive pastor in churches in New Jersey, Colorado, Maryland, and currently in North Carolina, for over twenty-five years. He has also been a middle school and high school teacher and athletic coach in both the public and private school environments. Dr. Shaw has spent several years counseling in church settings and community agencies and counseling military personnel and their families near Ft. Bragg, North Carolina. He specializes in trauma related issues; addictions; and victims of abuse, depression, anxiety disorders, life adjustment issues, loss, and grief, counseling church leaders and pastors, adolescents, and adults. Dr. Shaw’s is a unique prophetic voice in the kingdom caring for hurting people, and he serves as an adjunct professor for Liberty University, an author, and a conference speaker. Dr. Shaw has a Bachelor’s degree in religious studies from Wagner College, New York and a Master of Divinity degree from Christian International Theological School, Florida. He also has a Master of Arts in professional counseling from Liberty University, Virginia and a Doctor of Ministry degree in Formational Counseling, a practical theology, from Ashland Theological Seminary, Ohio. He is a member of the American Association of Christian Counseling, and serves the AACC as credentialing board director and in professional development. Dr. Shaw conducts seminars and teaches practical applications of biblical truths for everyday life. He and his wife, Lorinda, have been married since 1978, and they have raised five children together. He loves running, sports, the beach, and spending time with family.