One Single Mother to Another

Living Your Life

You are a young, beautiful woman with a lot to live for. You have a child to raise and a full life ahead of you. Don’t ever give up because things go wrong or issues come up. Just push through it and focus on your future. Don’t look at having a child out of wedlock or at a young age as a mistake. Look at it as a new challenge and rise to it. Your child is not a mistake because God doesn’t make mistakes. Every precious life is planned by God even if you didn’t plan it. He created this child for his purpose.

You are the most important role model in your child’s life. If they see you give up, then they will give up. Work hard to give your child the best life you can. Show them that no matter what setbacks you may have that you can always push through. Not much has really changed, you just have to work harder and be patient to get what you want and to have the life that you always dreamed of. You will become a stronger individual because you are doing this with a child. You will face some hard times. You are going to have struggles that will make you want to break down and give up. God is taking you through for a reason, just as he did me. You just have to stay in constant prayer and have faith that God will see you through it. Remember, Philippians 4:6, 7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds of Christ Jesus.” 

Use your support system because that’s what it’s there for. Don’t try to do it all yourself. Set attainable short term and long term goals for yourself. You may have to start off small because you are doing this as a single mother but don’t ever give up. 

You don’t have to be another statistic. You and you only have the power to change your life. Think positively and encourage yourself. Repeat Philippians 4:13 “I can do everything through him who gives me strength” daily. Tell yourself that you are going to be the best mother that you can be and that you are going to be a hero to your child. Someone he/she can look up to and come to whenever he/she need help. Tell yourself that you are a good woman who deserves a good man to love and to respect you. Tell yourself that you deserve the best out of life. Life is what you make of it. It doesn’t make you. We have to lift ourselves up when there is no one else to lift us up. Sometimes we can become our own worst enemy. Be your own personal cheering leader instead and cheer yourself on. Be proud of yourself and respect yourself. Reward yourself from time to time because you deserve it. You are doing something that some women may not be able to do. I commend you for taking responsibility and doing everything that you are doing. The fact that you are reading this book says a lot. You are a unique individual and a strong woman. KPP! Keep praying and pressing! You are truly blessed.