So Many Friends, So Little Friendship
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WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?
The above question may sound too familiar, or maybe too easy to answer. I love this old time saying which I believe is in accordance with the scripture (proverb 13:20) which goes, “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”.
It is very important that you think deeply before answering the above question, because you may not have previously understood the great difference between true friends and flakes [bad friends]. I know if I should be physically asking you this question, you may have a lot of names or pictures to answer me with; some of them may be grouped as your special friends, and some, casual friends or you may refer some as just friends. The truth here is that these people in your life are either good for you, or they are bad for you. In other words, they are either friends or flakes.
Just to let you know before we continue, I am not here to discourage you from having friends or making friends. My message here is simply to ensure that you are keeping true friends that truly care about you, as this can foster healthy relationships. According to studies, a healthy relationship is one of the greatest factors for healthy living. It is paramount that we understand what friendship is all about; its consequence in our present day living and even in our nearest and dearest future. I am also bringing this to your understanding that you can never be different from your friends or the people you always hang out with. I remember my mom always said “birds of same feather flock together in the same direction” whenever she saw me with people she didn’t approve of. To be honest with you, that saying is practically true. The friends we keep can go a long way as a major factor to determine how great or how insignificant you will become in life. The earlier you realize this, the better for you, because they will affect your path to the top no matter who you are, where you are, or what you aspire to become in life. Your future or destiny may be in great jeopardy if you have bad friends or flakes disguising themselves as your friends, like wolves in sheep’s clothing.
Trust me; friends will either influence you positively or negatively. They are capable of launching you into the circle of great men or into the circle of frustrated fellows, which I refer to as the pit of life
Friends happen to be a major factor that determines whether or not you will ever fulfill your destiny, whether or not you will enjoy the fullness of the only life you’ve got to live.
Be it good or bad friends, male or female, old or young, they never stop influencing you in one way or the other. The sad thing is that we human beings are so quick to imitation and adapt easily to the evil or sinful life style of our so-called friends. Association can bring about assimilation. It’s so shocking to discover that, soon after we spend some time with someone, we find ourselves, unconsciously, mimicking their behavior or idiosyncrasies. Most times we don’t even have to be with them long enough before we start making hand gestures like them, or saying their favorite cliché, or making a facial expression the way they do. We, in essence, absorb and conform to their behavior. We are often ignorant of this because most of us just live life without paying attention to details, or maybe because we are not just observant enough to know what is going on in our life. Most of us just live a care-free life, or live with what I term an “I don’t care” attitude.
It is not always easy to know what type of relationship we are in, since it is very difficult for us to recognize and realize that a particular friend is good or just a flake, most especially if you are the type that pays no attention to details.
Here are some tips you can use to evaluate your friendship or relationship. It is as simple as asking yourself these questions:
• Do your friends make you feel good?
• Do you ever wonder if your friends say negative things about you behind your back?
• Do your friends say negative things about other people behind their back?
• Do your friends ever ask you to do things that you are not comfortable with?
• Do your friends make you feel like you are not as good as they are?
Do your friends like it when you hang out with other people without them?
?• Do your friends ask you to contribute more to the relationship?
• Do your friendships make you feel safe and comfortable?
• How much do you trust your friends?
• How much do you think they trust you?
• What have you gained or lost so far in this friendship of yours?
• Above all, does your friendship glorify God?
By asking yourself these questions, you will start thinking critically about the kind of friends you’ve been keeping; and after reading this chapter, you will know if it is worth keeping them in your life.
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About the Book
There is this old saying, “Show me your friend, and I will tell you who you are.” Unfortunately, we find ourselves in a generation where we are unreasonably judged by the value of our acquaintances, buddies, or so-called friends and neither by the content of our heart nor our behavior alone. In a world where so-called best friends are just nothing but flakes, we will have to wholly utilize So Many Friends, So Little Friendship as a great tool for making a delightful friendship that will be beneficial to us and others. Remember, you will continue to be the same person and will remain in the same place for years to come except for these two most important things—your circle of friends and your sources of information. Your life and your relationship with others will never remain the same after consuming this book.
About the Author
Rev. Ehihi A. Dominion is the president of His True Dominion Inspiration Ministry, a ministry that is well known to be under God’s mandate to soar mankind to greater heights in life with the word and power of God. Aside from his degrees in aviation, he has also earned his BSc in psychology from Upper Iowa University and currently undergoing his masters of divinity (MDiv) in Regent University, Virginia. Recognized as a member of the Honor Society.org, he is the author of So Many Friends, So Little Friendship. He has also authored numerous inspirational articles and evangelical pamphlets. Rev. Ehihi’s personal experience and current service in the military has led to his enthusiasm and devotion to the continued exploration of the diverse issues of the motivation and inspiration process for a better life. He is blissfully married to Olubunmi Precious, who currently works together with him in life and ministry.