Have You Found... or Will You Find?

Chapter one Soulmates

I guess we all know the feeling: ‘somewhere, out there’ there will be this fantastic amazing person who will answer our every prayer, fulfil our every need and will suit us the best. Most romantic movies are full of this. Think of Romeo and Juliette, Titanic, you name them. What makes us so captivated by these stories is the true love that the couples in these movies seem to have. The type of love that is universally hoped for, but seldom found. In reality, we tell ourselves, this type of love can only be seen in movies, but not in real life. Real life gives you only short moments of bliss of this kind, only to let it crash in the end. This world is a broken world, with a lot of broken people and a lot of broken relationships. True love seems like a myth, a fairy tale, something we want to believe in but of which we all know: it’s too good to be true. Or isn’t it? The reason so many relationships go wrong and break up is because most people are not together with their soulmate. Marrying your soulmate takes a lot of patience, trust and faith in God that He will bring that special person to you. Unfortunately a lot of people take matters in their own hand and decide for themselves who is best for them. They feel like they have to make it happen, that it is up to them to find that special person. I know from experience that the more I searched, the more I removed myself from my soulmate and the longer I had to wait. You see, when you want to decide who is best for you, if you want to make that all important life decision on your own, you do it on external factors. You can judge another person only on how he or she looks, how he or she behaves, what kind of clothes he or she wears, what he or she likes, etc. These factors are all factors that pass away or change with time. If love is based on a specific cause, then with the passing of that cause the love will also pass away. On the other hand, if love is not based on a specific cause, then with the passing of that cause, the love will not pass away. A specific cause can also be something material or sensual such as wealth or beauty. Instead of making our love dependent on these causes we need to create an unselfish union based on mutual respect and affection, and an interest in the good of the person loved. This can be done if we let God be our matchmaker, because He knows all people inside and out! While we look at outward appearances, He looks at the heart. Only He can make this all important lifetime decision for us. Only He knows who suits us best. Only He can lead us to our soulmate. But just what is a soulmate exactly? Many sources describe a soulmate as: “a person with whom one has a feeling of natural affinity on a sub-conscious level, in the areas of love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and a deep sense of compatibility. A concept that is related to this is the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought of as the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, which all souls are seeking to find and consequently join.” In Yiddish this concept is called a “Bashert”. Bashert means predestined one, a soul who is divinely ordained to be with you, set apart from the beginning of time. Just think of it…out of all the souls that have ever lived, that live today, and that will live in the future, God has chosen this one soul to be your soulmate…for now…and forever more!! To enhance our understanding of what a soulmate is, and how we can and should relate to our soulmate, I would like to take you along and explore this concept with you. I hope you will begin to realize what a great and awesome things God has in mind for you!!