No Shame!

“Do you have any STDs?”

My doctor kept her head down as she went through the health questionnaire. They always need the most up-to-date information on file.

“No,” I responded.

“Genital warts?” It’s always a bit uncomfortable when you get to this part of the exam. The most private questions are asked about things no one really likes to discuss.

“No thank goodness,” was my answer.

“How many sexual partners have you had in your lifetime?”

“One,” I replied. Whew. At least that was a quick one. I paused, waiting for more embarrassing questions… but nothing followed. I looked up to see my doctor looking me straight in the eyes.

“Really? Only one sexual partner? I’ve never had anyone say that.”

Wow. I was blown away. I didn’t know what to think! Out of all the patients she must see on an annual basis, every other person had a multiple count when asked about sexual partners? I wondered how many felt proud of their number. How many had double digits? How many couldn’t quite remember their exact number? I shuddered for a moment but came back to my present situation in time to tell my doctor about why I waited until after marrying my husband to have sex with him. I was able to share God’s word with her that day because I believed God’s word and obeyed Him in this area of my life. I had not thought about it for a few years, but then I realized how rare and awesome it is to follow God’s plan. That’s what this book is about.

I wish that you and I could be sitting across from each other on at a table in a coffee shop buried away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. That’s where topics like this need to be explored. We’re going to delve deep. Into the deepest part of you. Into a part of you that you probably share with…no one, perhaps. It may be that we don’t even share this part of us with God. And this is where the trouble starts. God made sex. He created it to be good and He created it for us as a loving Creator. It’s my deepest belief that God’s way is always the best way. If we want to be frank about it, one of the first concepts He designed for mankind was sexual love. We may grow anxious discussing this topic. It may be edgy when it appears in secular songs or movies, but the original artwork was a genuine masterpiece. If our sex lives line up with God’s word (yes, that’s right, I said sex can line up with the Bible!), we can expect a multitude of blessings that burst forth from a wellspring of life.

Perhaps that’s why I feel qualified to write this book; I’ve lived it. I couldn’t possibly say I’ve done everything right or that I’m the perfect example in all areas. However, I can say that my sex life with my husband has lined up with God’s word in many aspects and I’m not ashamed to talk about it. Why would anyone be ashamed to talk about victory? Some authors and/or speakers on the topic of sex start out by saying, “I did it wrong, and it didn’t work. Don’t do it like I did. Let me tell you my story.” Let us start from the opposite premise and discuss the reward of walking in obedience to God. What if there are blessings linked to a pure sex life that you never thought of before? What if purity in your sex life could lead to holiness in other areas of your life? What if I told you mine and my husband’s decision to start our marriage off as virgins was a decision that becomes more meaningful every year of our marriage? Well, that is the thrust behind this book: I did it- pretty close to right- and it turned out fantastic. Let me tell you God’s story…