The Eye Covenant

EYE CONTACT: During my years of ministerial training, I was featured as a guest singer from time to time. On one occasion I was shown the room I was to sing in by a female who had completed her training a few years before I had . At the time, she was working for the ministry that hosted the meeting and invited me to be a guest minister in song. As she gave me a detailed layout of the room, there was a brief moment when I tried to engage her with extended eye contact. To my surprise, this young lady looked away. She purposely refused to reciprocate my invitation via the eye gate. At first, I was taken off guard. My intentions were pure, so her actions were extremely puzzling to me. As the years went by, “The Eye Covenant” helped me to understand the young ladies demeanor with her eyes. At the time of this occurrence, the young lady was single and looking for a husband. I had been married for a number of years with several children. The young lady in this story was saving her eyes for the husband she was trusting God to bring into her life. Her actions with her eyes had nothing to do with me. Her demeanor was a commitment, a covenant she made with her eyes. This young lady knew that her eyes were not to be engaged by another man; especially a married man. The eyes say a lot without speaking. This young lady was very chaste with her eyes. ^^^^^^^^^^ As I fast forward to another encounter, it was almost the opposite of the previous. My wife and I were visiting a married couple during a break in my ministerial training. We were lodging at my wife's parents during the break. A couple we had befriended came to visit us while we were there. As we visited, my mother-in- law noticed something about the female of our married friends. This woman was loose with her eyes. This woman would often bat her eyes at the opposite sex, not knowing what she was doing. Perhaps she did know it, and it was her way to tempt the opposite sex. As we continued our visit, my mother - in- law was very observant. She saw what this woman was doing with her eyes. When the couple left our presence, my mother-in- law gave us a warning. The only way I know how to explain it is that it was as if my mother- in- law was a traffic light blinking the amber light of warning. So, we proceeded in the relationship with caution. ^^^^^^^^^ Several months before this book was scheduled to go to print, my wife and I were having fellowship with a couple over a meal. I happened to know that the husband of this couple was not meeting the emotional needs of his wife. This left her starved and emotionally defrauded. 1 Corinthians 7:5 (KJV) {5} Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that satan tempt you not for your incontinency. The context of this verse is about sexual intercourse in marriage. In a marriage, you can defraud your spouse emotionally, without knowing it. Before any wife can feel free to engage in the marriage bed, she must feel free in her emotions. Only her husband is commissioned to do so. During our meal, I on purpose, monitered my eye contact with the wife of this couple. Why? Because I knew she was starved emotionally. Part and parcel of my “Eye Covenant” is to guard my heart. I guard my heart by guarding my eyes. Why? Because my eyes are the gate keeper of my mind, will, and emotions. (See Proverbs 4:20-27.)