Discovering a New Beginning

They say you should always write about what you know. The first thing I want to say is that I never saw myself writing a book on remarriage. I never thought, You know, one day I want to get divorced so that I can write on remarriage. Divorce happens though, and whether or not it was your fault, many—and I mean many—people find themselves divorced and wondering, Now what?

Life seems to be all turned around, and you question everything in your life, even your own salvation. The two of you were “one flesh,” and then suddenly it seems like you’re half a person. Your whole life is turned upside down.

This is not a book on divorce though; it is a book on remarriage—discovering a new beginning. This subject is taboo for most in the church because they don’t study scripture enough to see what it says; therefore, they treat divorced and remarried people as second-class Christians. They treat them as saved but as failures at the same time.

The great news is just as Christ is the God of second (or more) chances for life, He is the God who gives it for love as well. There is a new beginning, and the greatest love you could ever have might be about to walk into your life. So whether you think you could love again, you just found your new love, you just got remarried, or you have been remarried for a long time, this book is for you.

I am going to take the blinders off and make it clear through this journey of discovery with me. I am not perfect in my marriage (my lady can vouch for that). I have made plenty of mistakes, said words I wished I could grab back, and even made her cry, which I truly hate. Yet I know that, with Christ’s help, He can build anyone up in Him and in the process make a new journey beautiful.

I won’t be presenting other people’s situations—only my own. You won’t read quotes upon quotes from other people’s books and articles. We have enough books out there that are only rehashes of other people’s work. You, the reader, need to know that the words you are reading come from a person who has been there and done that. I will speak from experience, using the Word of God combined with practical advice to show you how to traverse the amazing, thrilling, and intense adventure of remarriage.

I will also be using scripture passages that will appear in multiple chapters, since the theme of these passages can be interwoven through many aspects of remarriage. The use of scripture is of utmost importance, since God is the creator and sustainer of the Christian life and marriage.

In this book, we will cover the challenges, rewards, obstacles, and different parts of the journey that will make this marriage the best and last one. This love is your God-given love of a lifetime!